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Dear Self,

I get that your desire is to locate a second job for supplemental income. However, I need for you to think BIGGER. Maybe you’re not able to find the job you seek because it has yet to be created. Use this time to tap into your passion inorder to create a purposeful yet lucrative second income for yourself. Think bigger! Be bolder! And do NOT let money cloud your judgment. If you settle for less than you deserve, you’ll get even less than what you settled for. Hard was never easy and easy will never be hard. Hiya! So exercise your creative juices and believe that this to shall come. And so it freakin is! This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY. 



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Life Goals (BIG & small)

  • Travel and serve in Africa 
  • Fall in love ❤️ 
  • Become a Teacher 👨‍🏫 
  • Become an Assistant Principal 
  • Start my own school (Principal)
  • Live in New York 
  • Live in Atlanta 
  • INSPIRE youth in underserved communities 
  • Maintain a healthy gym routine 
  • Make friends around the world 
  • Become a Father 
  • Continuously operate beyond my comfort zone 
  • Appreciate my family 
  • Make six figures times ten. Networth of over 10 million. I’ll take more more! 
  • Stay true to my passion and purpose 
  • Keep moving 
  • Turn off the television 
  • Keep up with my cycling 
  • Discover relief for my feet 
  • Be my own boss 
  • Start my own business 
  • Write a book 
  • Become a motivation speaker 
  • Train teachers 
  • PHD in something 
  • Be open to love again 
  • Not become a statistic within the black gay community 
  • Leave a legacy behind that rings in the ears of many 
  • No drinking at home alone 
  • Read 12 books a year minimum 
  • Walk, skip, jump to the beat of my own dream and do it unapologetically 
  • Own a fun car: something with a drop top!
  • Moped or motorcycle on the side
  • Establish a savings account that affords me financial freedom. 500,000 plus! Times 10!
  • But my mother a house of her own
  • Create careers for others 
  • Explore and participate in New and different things
  • Attend a motivational conference 
  • Travel to all seven continents 
  • Wake up and say THANK YOU
  • Just keep swimming 
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I am so thankful for each day I get to open my eyes and take in a breath of fresh air.


As I reflect on my 31 years of living……I sip on this satisfying glass of Chardonnay, take in a deep breath of air, kick up my feet…throw my head back and let the following words, “thank you”……. dance down the walkway of my tongue, and through the tunnel of my lips………..


Out into the physical space of my villa these two words dance around the room and then propel up towards the infinite space that envelopes our global community………


I sit comfortably on my couch grinning at my reflection in my living room window because I know the alcohol is beginning to invade my blood stream….


But suddenly life stops for a split second and ALL becomes clearer. I receive a thought of knowing that I am EXACTLY where I’m supposed to be.


I put my glass of wine onto the table, stand up and suddenly feel the urge to dance with life …….because today is a celebration!


As I embrace my thirty first year of living……I invite life to lead this next dance into year thirty two.


Raise your glasses folks!…..CHEERS!


Here’s to letting our individual journeys unfold.



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Thirty years of curiosity…..


Thirty years of curiosity

One day a teenage boy decides to take a walk along Third Street in a small town known as Newport, RI…..why? Well…..he was feeling lost and confused.

He feels very alone and struggles with fitting into a social group and has no strong sense of self-identity. He ponders many thoughts including: “Who am I? Why am I here? Why don’t I fit in? What’s next? Why don’t I like myself? Why am I so different?” He becomes overwhelmed by negative thoughts….. that target everything he perceives to be wrong in his life.

He distracts his mind by immersing himself into his academic studies and extracurricular activities. He recognizes that the love he receives from his mother, family and friends help saturate the internal struggle that festers deep beneath the smile that is painted onto his face. He feels lost. He feels confined. He feels like a big city boy craving to break free of the small town mentality. He begins to surround himself with other unique individuals who just don’t quite fit into the social normalcies that are spoon fed into our mouths by the world. He draws from each of their unique qualities and begins to celebrate his own differences. He finds the courage to begin walking the unconventional path to which many would and still do not understand. He begins to learn how to stand WITH and FOR himself. He works on proceeding confidently through life with a sound faith system that will continue (30 years later) to serve as his internal GPS system.

Throughout his youth……..he has wanted to sing……shout and scream until the words cried out. However, he never knew how to articulate his struggle. You see when your mind is filled with so much chatter…..EVERYTHING is wrong? He couldn’t name it…let alone ask someone for support. All he could do was BE with his emotions and work through them. And that is EXACTLY what he did!

What made this possible is the unconditional love and support he had received from his mom, family and friends. They are a reflection of him….as He is of them. To this day…without any of them…..he doesn’t know where he would be.

I am that teenager and 31 years later I am finally able to articulate the war that was raging within me. If I could go back in time and have a conversation with that 15-year-old boy….I would drive up to him on Third Street in my current Chevy, Cruz. I would point to the Dubai plates…… just so he could affirm his curiosity and witness the fruits of his hard labor to come…………and I’d say these words:

“Start loving yourself……until then you will remain stagnant…….life is waiting for you!”

I would drive off, make a U-Turn and as I slowly pass by my 15-year-old self for a second time….I’d scream out the window:

“You are special Anthony………Continue to be curious and start believing in yourself my friend. I love you…now start loving yourself!”

As the Chevy would drive away…..that 15 year old teenager would pull his shoulders back, raise his chin up and wrap his arms around himself. He would stare off into the sky…..and for the first time see beyond the clouds….. thinking to himself…Dubai? Where the heck is that?…..Wow!….. :0). He runs home…..(flat feet and all) grabs a sheet of paper and draws a big cloud.

He cuts out the cloud and with a marker writes the following phrase: THE SKY IS NOT THE LIMIT….DREAM BIG and LOVE YOURSELF!

He’d tape the cloud onto his mirror and for a split second he catches a glimpse of his 30-year-old face looking back at him in the mirror mouthing “I love you.” For the first time he begins to see things CLEARLY….The internal battle of love would finally cease!


If there’s one lesson I have learned in thirty years…it is taking the time to really love yourself. And I’m not talking about your physical self and how good you look in them jeans! Lol. I’m talking about internal and unconditional love of your spirit self.

SELF………I love you and your unique qualities are what make you so special. Continue to inspire and continue to live on purpose! Happy early birthday. ;0)

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imageLast October, I had the honor and privilege of celebrating my 31st birthday and it was a very special day. It was filled with gratitude because I have so much to be thankful for. One thing I am especially thankful for is experiencing thirty-one years old in this healthy and fully functional body. Many have not made it to this age which is why I celebrate (not dread) being a year older. I am thirty-one, not twenty-five, not twenty-eight… I am thirty one…….so get into it. :0) I embrace the number of years I’ve been afforded to spend in this physical body and I look forward to meeting up with thirty-two. :0)

One promise I made in my twenties, was for my thirties to be a completely different experience. I did not want to relive my twenties for another ten years. I truly believe there is a beauty in getting older and India Arie would also agree. If I were to do the same ‘old’ things I did in my twenties, I wouldn’t afford myself the opportunity to evolve on a spiritual, physical, and/or emotional level. As one evolves, an abundance of wisdom shall follow. Therefore, to wake up on October 4th in a completely foreign space was such a delight. I am living in a country that challenges my thinking, values, ideals and beliefs. My ability to be flexible, patient, reflective and tolerant is challenged moment to moment. Each day brings about a new level of understanding and I am experiencing (first hand) the true beauty in growing older and wiser.

BEWARE: Do not become consumed by the EGO. The moment this happens one may become obsessed with their physical body (looking youthful) and forget about inner self. Inner-self is often referred to as the ‘formless’. The ‘formless’ is you. YOU are spirit. Spirit is an extension of your SOURCE. Know this! YOU are not the body that stares back at you in the mirror. Your spirit is simply renting a space within a physical form that people recognize as the human body. Don’t allow your physical form to distract your spirit from evolving into something greater as each year passes you by.

Ones birthday should be a day of reflection and gratitude. If your years are blending together, then you may be reading and rereading the same old chapters of your life. I challenge you to move on! A purposeful life incorporates two key components: finding a way to be a better person than you were on yesterday AND to serve with love. Listen folks…….turn the page and allow the next chapter of your life to create itself. Time is of the essence. Throw your hands up, and receive the truth and clarity that comes along with growing older and wiser.

Consider these thoughts organized! :0)


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