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Wheel of Life
Time to dive into five year goals for each spoke of my life. They all deserve my attention. Life balance!
⁃ Take at least one international trip a year.
⁃ Don’t be afraid to open your heart up to people. The past is the past. Let it go!
⁃ Continuously feed my brain with self help books, podcasts, you tube videos and reflect via my blog. Remain aware and present. There’s only this moment right now!
⁃ Don’t ever allow distance to get in the way of your relationships with family. Continue to regularly reach out. Keep in touch.
⁃ I want to continue to exercise my multiple skills and acquire a salary well above $250,000 while doing so. I see myself in leadership via the ownership of my business. I’d like to inspire people to live their best life through motivation talks.
⁃ I’d like to completely eliminate alcohol from my diet and continue to go to the gym on a regular basis (5 or more times a week). I’d also like to find a joy in cooking healthy meals.
⁃ I’d like to acquire over $300,000 in savings. Establish a lucrative retirement/ investment account and maintain a healthy credit score well above 800. I’d like to also be paying regularly on my student loans. Heck I’d like to pay off my loans with one big payment.
⁃ Continuously challenge my professional growth by taking on new types of roles that help expand the capacity in which I am able to serve. I learn best by doing. The more skills I acquire the more marketable my brand becomes.
⁃ Cycling brings me joy. Riding at least once a week and working to increase the distance/speed in which I can cycle. Get out in nature. Be with nature.
⁃ Regularly volunteer with an organization you believe in. Make a wish foundation! Serve without pay.
⁃ You don’t have to travel to enjoy the simple things in life. Create mini quests for you to partake in at least twice a month. If it’s with yourself so be it. Otherwise, the more the merrier.
Now take all of these goals and multiply them by ten!. THINK BIGGER! LIVE BIGGER! SERVE BIGGER! LOVE BIGGER! This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY. Guess it’s time to get to work. 🤗❤️🙏🏾🎈
Inspiring people to discover, believe in and achieve their greatest potential. My belief is that every person on this earth has a greatness that just needs to be ignited. Let’s light your fire together!
This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY. And so it is! What’s your personal mission statement? Feel free to share!
It’s interesting how these tend to change as I move through the chapters of my life. Currently, this is where am I……
This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY. Feel free to share your top 5 Values below! And so it is! 🤓
I get that your desire is to locate a second job for supplemental income. However, I need for you to think BIGGER. Maybe you’re not able to find the job you seek because it has yet to be created. Use this time to tap into your passion inorder to create a purposeful yet lucrative second income for yourself. Think bigger! Be bolder! And do NOT let money cloud your judgment. If you settle for less than you deserve, you’ll get even less than what you settled for. Hard was never easy and easy will never be hard. Hiya! So exercise your creative juices and believe that this to shall come. And so it freakin is! This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY.
- Travel and serve in Africa
- Fall in love ❤️
- Become a Teacher 👨🏫
- Become an Assistant Principal
- Start my own school (Principal)
- Live in New York
- Live in Atlanta
- INSPIRE youth in underserved communities
- Maintain a healthy gym routine
- Make friends around the world
- Become a Father
- Be PRESENT
- Continuously operate beyond my comfort zone
- Appreciate my family
- Make six figures times ten. Networth of over 10 million. I’ll take more more!
- Stay true to my passion and purpose
- Keep moving
- Turn off the television
- Keep up with my cycling
- Discover relief for my feet
- Be my own boss
- Start my own business
- Write a book
- Become a motivation speaker
- Train teachers
- PHD in something
- Be open to love again
- Not become a statistic within the black gay community
- Leave a legacy behind that rings in the ears of many
- No drinking at home alone
- Read 12 books a year minimum
- Walk, skip, jump to the beat of my own dream and do it unapologetically
- Own a fun car: something with a drop top!
- Moped or motorcycle on the side
- Establish a savings account that affords me financial freedom. 500,000 plus! Times 10!
- But my mother a house of her own
- Create careers for others
- Explore and participate in New and different things
- Attend a motivational conference
- Travel to all seven continents
- Wake up and say THANK YOU
- Just keep swimming
I often wonder how I can maintain peace of mind on a regular basis. I mean for the most part, while I am studying and/or doing the ‘work’ I am at peace. But I must admit that I have my moments where LIFE happens without notice.
In this current moment, I am not at peace. I recognize that my feelings are my thoughts in motion. I get that! But the reality is I feel… what I feel. And the thoughts that are running around in my head consist of the following; I want to go home. I miss my family. I miss my friends. I feel so alone. I’m sick of being in this hot ass desert. I’m very bored with living in this remote region.
Now because I know that these thoughts are negative, they speak to why I feel what I feel. As I think, so shall I be. But you know……I have come to accept that these feelings are valid because of what I am going through right now. Living Overseas is not easy. The highs are really high….and lows can be really low. On top of that, the anticipation of heading home in three weeks is unbearable.
However, when I am in a funk I recognize that I am not aligned with my SOURCE. And what’s interesting is how easily I fall out of alignment without even knowing. It usually comes to light when I start feeling like crap and my first thought is how the heck did I let my mind get into this negative space.
I love the quote I posted above by Lao Tzu because it reminds me to be grateful for what IS. It reminds me to be present because it’s the only moment I’m ever going to have. This moment right now! That is all. Furthermore, I actually okay right now in this moment. This justifies the idea that there really is nothing lacking right now and I need to accept that as my truth and my clarity. Sooooo….I tell myself to STOP IT! Stop entertaining the negative thoughts. ;o)
Wayne Dyer often says, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” I believe this to be true but I must also acknowledge my human ways….well EGO driven habits. I am a spiritual being trying to master these human thoughts and it is no easy task my friends. However, through gratitude….I shall overcome this funky moment!
-I am thankful for having a home and a job to go back to in the USA.
-I am thankful for the unconditional love and support I receive from my friends and family.
-I am thankful for this time I have to spend WITH myself. It has allowed me to fine tune my relationship with the ONE ABOVE.
-I am thankful for this remote experience in the hot desert because it affords me the opportunity to explore new interest/hobbies.
What is this feeling of uncertainty that continues to come and go. I find myself contemplating my future knowing that my life is already mapped out for me. All I need to do is simply enjoy the ride. Yet, I still ponder the future.
Lately, I’ve been trying to decide whether or not I want to continue my journey overseas. The alternative is to go back to the states. There are a number of reasons I want to stay overseas and many reasons why I’d like to go home. However, I want to focus my attention on the bigger influences.
Remaining overseas continues to be an option because I recognize I’m doing something most people only dream about. They fear taking that first step and ultimately miss out on their opportunity. I’ve taken that first step and overcame the fear by turning it into curiosity. I’m here now and life is pretty simple without the hassle of bills and quite exciting now that I have the resources to travel the world……literally. I’m able to save a little money and I’m continuously being exposed to something new which makes me feel so alive. Additionally, I’m doing what I love and impacting the global community. I’m so grateful and truly humbled by this entire experience.
Returning home brings about a comfort, safety and peace of mind because there’s a familiarity that exists. Additionally, I’d be surrounded by my closest friends and family. The distance is the biggest challenge I face since I’ve moved overseas. There’s an “alone ness” that shows face at the most random moments. However, I’ve also recognized how much I needed this time WITH myself….it truly has brought me closer to my SOURCE. Going home feels easy, predictable, safe and quite honestly it lacks any real genuine excitement. Don’t get me wrong….reconnecting with the people I love most will clearly be worth it but I wonder where my head will be after the reunions. Will those old feelings I felt prior to moving overseas return after a few months? Will I fall back into debt? Will I feel like I cut my overseas experience to short? Sigh……….and this is a perfect example of…..MIND CHATTER!
I read somewhere that when you don’t know what to do…..just be STILL and LISTEN. It’s interesting because I’ve ALWAYS taken the road less traveled. Hell, I’m infamous for going off the path and creating my own lane. It’s always been the reaction of friends and family that let me know that I’m aligned with my PURPOSE. So when people don’t understand my choices, or question the why, or wrinkle their forehead out of curiosity and confusion……THAT’S when I know I’m aligned with doing what feels right. Because what feels right to me has always been difficult for many people to understand.
I know exactly what I want to do….but I continuously am battling with my EGO. It’s telling me to go home, settle down, work on my retirement, develop a routine, and save money for a rainy day. Be close to family and friends and acquire success by moving up the ladder of hierarchy that has been instituted across the spectrum of all fields. Why? Because EGOs recognize happiness as being connected to what you HAVE, what you DO, and how you LOOK (ECT….)……in COMPARISON to the people around you.
I love my country despise the systems of norms that are in place but if one deviates from these systems they simply will get ‘left behind’. Often referred to as the rat race…..working extra hard just to keep your head above the water. The rich getting richer and the poor getting poorer. Paying taxes, expensive healthcare, debts, bills, and the constant reminder of what you don’t have. It’s a lifestyle I have no desire of returning to right now.
Then why do I battle with the decision of returning home or staying overseas? Well…like I said I will focus on the big influences. When you have nobody to share your greatest moments with, living overseas can be a very LONELY life. I’m thankful for each and every moment I’ve experienced overseas but when I look to my left and then my right and no one is there…(that I love)…it can be a very difficult moment to truly embrace.
However, I’m killing my curiosity and living out my dreams. I could leave this earth tomorrow and truly rest in PEACE because I am so grateful. I truly believe we are put on this earth to evolve and serve. I continuously ask myself…..how can you be better than you were on yesterday? And are you passionate about the service you are doing right NOW? And my answer is YES!……
Love and happiness come as a result of you doing what you were put on earth to do. And I think it’s important to recognize that love and happiness comes in many forms. A person just needs to be open to receiving it……..so SELF do yourself a favor and continue to just let life lead this dance. Follow your heart fearlessly because ultimately you know you are going to be okay. You were put on this earth to do a service. More importantly upon your departure your legacy will live on. Your legacy will continue to be one that speaks to people changing their fears into curiosity and living out their greatest dreams.
Consider these thoughts organized….now LET…..THEM…..GO!
I love admiring the architectural beauty of sky scrapers because what was once a VISION is now a reality. I often stop and ponder……how in the heck did they do that?!!?! They are all works of art often grabbing my attention and holding it hostage. Lol. You must be wondering where I’m going with this….??
Well, once upon a time I had a VISION to teach overseas and have now made it my reality. Was it easy? No way! You may be wondering how in the heck I pulled it off. Well to be honest, making a change is never easy. I know some of you may be having the same itch I experienced a few years ago. Often described as a restlessness with your mundane routine and a desire to do something different. Not only do you find yourself wanting to make a change but people are also telling you to do something about. Sigh! And you know this!…..but they just don’t seem to understand that it can be difficult to take that first step. Furthermore, figuring out which direction to go in can be even more overwhelming.
Do I go back to school? Do I change jobs? Do I end my relationship!? Do I really want to bring this person into my life? Should I move to the city!? Should I turn down the job?! Should I quit school? Should I move back home? You name it! Decisions! Decisions! Decisions!
Here’s the secret, you must be the architect and be open to receiving a clear vision that represents the skyscraper of your life. Often times, people have no vision or their vision is unclear……well……..start by picking up new hobbies. A new hobby requires doing something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable! Yes, uncomfortable! You must step outside of your comfort zone in order to discover your new truth. Recognizing new and creative ways to get aligned with your source will ensure your new vision finds you! This is often referred to as being inspired: In SPIRIT or connected to your source. It is in this space that you will begin rising from the ground like a beautiful skyscraper.
I challenge you to affirm that you are the architect of your life! Be open and ready to receive your vision. Furthermore, be willing to do the work in order to rise from the ground like a skyscraper.
Consider these thoughts organized! ;0)
Living a life of purpose often equates to being aligned with your SOURCE. And folks, usually you can tell when you are aligned because it feels pretty dang good! For me, getting to this place has been NO easy task. I had to LET GO of the idea that life was all about ‘getting more’ and reaching for a destination that is often referred to as success.
Translation: I was a prisoner of my EGO.
I fell into the infamous rat race, and spent every present moment thinking about the next future moment. I just knew….if I had achieved X,Y and Z happiness would be waiting for me at the finish line. My AWARENESS of this foolish display of imagery was the reason I had a desire to no longer participate in the rat race. I wanted to begin living on purpose. I just knew that there was a new path…..hell my own unique path…..off the beaten track…….that was waiting to be discovered. I just had to find the courage to take that first step.
I eventually reached the finish line and acquired a feeling of ‘success’ BUT My EGO wanted more! It still wasn’t satisfied! Ugh! I had acquired my certification to become a school principal. I quickly moved up the ladder of success. I started as a special education teacher. Then moved into a dean of school culture position. Later, I became an assistant principal and was well on my way to opening up my school! However, as I acquired more power, money, and status I still wasn’t satisfied. It didn’t make any sense!
This was the moment I found myself at a crossroads and decided to take my career in a new direction. I quit my comfy job as a school administrator and moved overseas to teach English. It didn’t make much sense to my family and friends, but for the first time in my life I didn’t give damn! Oooohhhhhh and it felt sooooo good!
I have had a desire to teach overseas for quite some time. It always lingered within but I never paid it much attention because my EGO didn’t think it aligned with its hunger to acquire MORE. However, it was a curiosity that never diminished. Needless to say, I took a leap of faith in 2012 and here I am living overseas, on purpose without any regrets in 2014. It was the best decision I ever made. Why? Well that difficult time period brought me HERE. Where is here? Here in the NOW. I am simply living for today. This journey has ‘evolved me’ on many levels: spiritually, mentally, physically, professionally and emotionally. I am now living my truth with much clarity.
Most folks are curious about trying something different and it is our fear that keeps us from taking the first step. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again. You must walk confidently into the direction of your dreams and let LIFE lead the way. ;0)
Consider these thoughts organized…. ;0)