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Dear Self,

I get that your desire is to locate a second job for supplemental income. However, I need for you to think BIGGER. Maybe you’re not able to find the job you seek because it has yet to be created. Use this time to tap into your passion inorder to create a purposeful yet lucrative second income for yourself. Think bigger! Be bolder! And do NOT let money cloud your judgment. If you settle for less than you deserve, you’ll get even less than what you settled for. Hard was never easy and easy will never be hard. Hiya! So exercise your creative juices and believe that this to shall come. And so it freakin is! This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY. 



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Be Kind to Yourself 

Side eye… hand on the hip…. mouth wide open…..twist of the neck….and lots of attitude! ……….wait for it…. speak MAMA RU!

Isn’t funny how our emotions work? One minute the world feels like it’s going to end and the next minute you feel compelled to serve Beyoncé realness. 

As I bring the microphone to my lips and open up my 👄, I take in a mouthful…. OF AIR! Y’all nasty. Lol. And allow my vocal chords to do the rest. Oh… ya’ll thought I was going to actually starting singing? You’ve got the wrong blog!

I’ve revealed more than I ususally do these past few posts and I must say it’s been liberating. The overwhelming support has reminded me to ensure I’m also being kind, loving and supportive to myself. So interesting how we forget to do such a simple thing. 

I’ve recently started going to a counselor. Yes! I know….it’s still hard for me to admit it but hell I’m going to a damn counselor….and I’m unapologetic. And even better it’s covered by my insiurance. Lol. Anyway…….usually at the end of every session I try to walk away with some mantra that I can put into practice throughout the week. And this week…. you guessed right.


I don’t know where this journey shall take me. I surrender chile! I mean literally, I have handed over the car keys and fastened my humble ass in the passenger seat of life. SOURCE take the wheel. My GPS is off… hell my cellphone is off. I clasp my hands together, throw my head out of the car window and look up to the sky. I simply close my eyes and say thank you. This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY and so it is friends. 

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Hey fellow writers! I always wonder how many people actually read these posts? Then I wonder why I do I actually care? I mean my purpose for writing is for me to reflect on my truth my clarity. If my journey inspires others …. great! If not… eh… it is what it is. No shade…. wink. 

Sorry folks, today’s a funky kind of day. Heck I’m just tired and it’s myTRUTHmyCLARITY. Lol. I’ve found myself trying to keep busy in order to avoid the present matters at hand. Sigh…. I’m tired just thinking about it. I keep hearing ‘one day at a time’ but these days are wearing me out! Lol. It’s interesting because I feel this need to ‘keep swimming’ 🏊 but lately I’m feeling more compelled to simply float. I’m doing all this swimming and haven’t a clue which direction I should even be headed in. Round and round I go wondering why I’m chasing my tail. The other day it dawned on me to actually stop swimming and come up for some damn air. Like literally take my head up out of the water! Well damn! Didn’t realize I was actually swimming/exhibiting in a fishbowl of emotions which speaks to why I’ve been suffocating. 

I’m tired friends….and just feel this need to float calmly in the ripples of my emotions. As I lay on my back and look up out of the fishbowl I wonder what’s out there? How do I get myself out of this bowl of emotions. My desire to change goes beyond buying a filter and changing the water. I want more than this bowl…I want to be able to leap out of this bowl and float through the winds of possibility. I want to feel free of all the pain and sorrow. I lay here floating….. feeling to tired to swim. It’s so hard to just be still but know I must if ever I am to restore my fire 🔥 to persevere. I float freely……just being with self and having faith that one day I’ll be restored enough to take the leap of LIFE out of the bowl and into the unknown. This is myTRUTHmyCLARITY. And so it is….I FLOAT. :0)

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The Power of YES

I recently moved from NYC to the Bay Area and figured it’s time to start writing again.  As I get older, it’s getting harder to remember the small details of life’s adventure. Therefore, I must write it down and quite frankly this also serves as my ‘church time.’

I’m currently working in The East Bay (San Fransisco) with a larger charter school network as a school leader. It’s been about two months since my move and thus far I can’t complain. My job is demanding which explains why I lack the energy and motivation to write. Therefore, I’ve officially given myself permission to just write small. Even if it’s just as simple as a paragraph, write anything. And if the sprit moves me to write more, then so be it! 

My cousin is here visiting from Rhode Island with his girlfriend and I hung out with them on yesterday. We all went to a few wineries in Sonoma County. It was definitely beautiful out there and lots of wine to taste. I wasn’t a fan of the red wines but liked a few of the white wines. We also had a cute little picnic at one of the wineries and the food was delicious. It was hard for me to truly immerse myself in the experience because I was the damn driver so all I could truly do was coat my tongue and sip on a bit of wine here and there. Lord knows I wanted to swim in that shit and luxuriate out on the lawn of the different wineries like everybody else. Did I mention that I didn’t enjoy any of the Reds. Bleh! Lol. 

The day also served as a mini reunion. So basically my cousin is in a relationship with someone I went to high school with. Now during high school, she and I rarely spoke. Go figure right? So she is friends with a number of young ladies that also went to high school with us that I rarely spoke to. As you can imagine, it makes for an interesting experience given the mere fact that I thought I’d never see these people again after graduating from high school and now here we are….. in a cabin, drinking, and playing cards against humanity. I mean, need I say more. But it was a pleasant exeorience and lovely to see everyone all grown up and celebrating life. 

I’m writing this post because I have truly been operating outside of my comfort zone since I arrived in the bay area. But even in saying that I am faced to determine what is my comfort zone. Sadly, it’s being alone and away from people. I know! That’s so bad. Why does it feel easier to engage with few rather than many? I used to be very sociable, and now here I am preparing myself mentally each time I’m about to engage with people. I don’t know where his anti social behavior in coming from but it’s real my friends. Needless to say, I’m determined to keep saying YES and hopefully I will break out of this new habit of wanting to always be with myself. It’s just not very healthy and I think part of the reason I’m adopting this mindset is because I live in the suburb and my partner has been away for an extending period of time. 

Anyway, I’m rambling. Oh wait… This is my blog…. I can do that lol. 

This is my truth folks….! 

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As I walk CONFIDENTLY into the direction of the unknown, I embody a KNOWING that everything is going to be just fine. I am GUIDED by my SOURCE to SERVE and GROW on and with PURPOSE. 

My LEGACY is one that speaks to living your BEST life while also exercising your PASSION through SERVICE. LIVE beyond your COMFORT ZONE and be OPEN to receiving the many OPPORTUNITIES that move into your life. MOVE with LIFE because it truly is a DANCE. Allow it to GUIDE you and remember to SMILE along the way. I am YOU. You are ME. We are ONE. One with SOURCE. 

This is my TRUTH my CLARITY my LEGACY :0)

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Ten LIFE Tips…. :0)

Here are ten LIFE tips inspired by quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer: 
1. Change your perspective
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
2. Pursue your dreams
“Anything you really want, you can attain, if you really go after it.”
3. Hardships reveal who you are
“Circumstances do not make a man, they reveal him.”
4. A calm mind is powerful
“A mind at peace, a mind centered and not focused on harming others, is stronger than any physical force in the universe. “
5. Do not judge
“When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
6. Make a decision to move forward
“You are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.”
7. Control how you react to events
“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.”
8. Do what you love
“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.”
9. Go the extra mile
“It’s never crowded along the extra mile.”
10. Be open to miracles
“Miracles come in moments. Be ready and willing.”


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Birthday Realness….

As thirty two approaches, I have been thinking a lot about a birthday wish for myself. It doesn’t look like I’ll have a cake, presents or birthday cards this year but I’m okay with that. Living in a very remote location doesn’t make it easy for people to send me things and I’m not expecting anything from the few friends I’ve made here because we cool…but we ain’t cool cool.

Honestly, I really do not need any THING. As I physically get older and my spirit gets wiser, I find myself becoming less attached to STUFF. One of my favorite authors (Wayne Dyer) talks about how he keeps a suit with no pockets in the back of his closet. People often ask him why, and he simply says that when he transitions into the afterlife…the suit in which they bury him needs no pockets because it’s not like he will be taking any THING with him. Lol. Now that’s keeping it one hundred (REAL)!

So I come back to my birthday wish. What is it that I want or need? It’s actually quite simple. I WANT for my family, friends, and myself to live our best lives without any regrets. I NEED for each of us to take care of ourselves thus affording us good health. Lastly, I affirm that we will continue to support and love one another (UNCONDITIONALLY) as we move along our unique life experiences. And so it is!


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Find you some HAPPY



16 ways to find you some HAPPY ;8)

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1. Push yourself to get up before the rest of the world – start with 7am, then 6am, then 5:30am. Go to the nearest hill with a big coat and a scarf and watch the sun rise.

2. Push yourself to fall asleep earlier – start with 11pm, then 10pm, then 9pm. Wake up in the morning feeling re-energized and comfortable.

3. Erase processed food from your diet. Start with no lollies, chips, biscuits, then erase pasta, rice, cereal, then bread. Use the rule that if a child couldn’t identify what was in it, you don’t eat it.

4. Get into the habit of cooking yourself a beautiful breakfast. Fry tomatoes and mushrooms in real butter and garlic, fry an egg, slice up a fresh avocado and squirt way too much lemon on it. Sit and eat it and do nothing else.

5. Stretch. Start by reaching for the sky as hard as you can, then trying to touch your toes. Roll your head. Stretch your fingers. Stretch everything.

6. Buy a 1L water bottle. Start with pushing yourself to drink the whole thing in a day, then try drinking it twice.

7. Buy a beautiful diary and a beautiful black pen. Write down everything you do, including dinner dates, appointments, assignments, coffees, what you need to do that day. No detail is too small.

8. Strip your bed of your sheets and empty your underwear draw into the washing machine. Put a massive scoop of scented fabric softener in there and wash. Make your bed in full.

9. Organise your room. Fold all your clothes (and bag what you don’t want), clean your mirror, your laptop, vacuum the floor. Light a beautiful candle.

10. Have a luxurious shower with your favourite music playing. Wash your hair, scrub your body, brush your teeth. Lather your whole body in moisturizer, get familiar with the part between your toes, your inner thighs, the back of your neck.

11. Push yourself to go for a walk. Take your headphones, go to the beach and walk. Smile at strangers walking the other way and be surprised how many smile back. Bring your dog and observe the dog’s behavior. Realize you can learn from your dog.

12. Message old friends with personal jokes. Reminisce. Suggest a catch up soon, even if you don’t follow through. Push yourself to follow through.

14. Think long and hard about what interests you. crime? sex? boarding school? long-forgotten romance etiquette? Find a book about it and read it. There is a book about literally everything.

15. Become the person you would ideally fall in love with. Let cars merge into your lane when driving. Pay double for parking tickets and leave a second one in the machine. Stick your tongue out at babies. Compliment people on their cute clothes. Challenge yourself to not ridicule anyone for a whole day. Then two. Then a week. Walk with a straight posture. Look people in the eye. Ask people about their story. Talk to acquaintances so they become friends.

16. Lay in the sunshine. Daydream about the life you would lead if failure wasn’t a thing. Open your eyes. Take small steps to make it happen for you.


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Trust Yourself


I can’t believe it happened. I’m driving home from work on the long stretch of highway that connects the town I work in. It has always been my worst nightmare because there’s nothing on the long stretch of road other than sand and lots of it! So GOD forbid there’s an emergency and you need help, it would take forever for someone to locate you.

So I’m driving along and typically there are gusts of wind that bounce my Hyundai Accent around but this time it felt a little different. I was doing about 75 miles per hour and I couldn’t seem to get control of my car. It was swerving left to right, right to left and it just didn’t feel right. Then it hit me, something’s wrong. I pullover and check the tires. Ugh! The back tire was flat. Now, thankfully all of the teachers that work in the same town take the exact same route home. However, I’m usually the first one out the school building so I knew it’d be a while before I saw any teachers zoom by in their cars.

I get out the car and asses the tire. I then open the trunk and assess the tools. Sigh! I’ve never done this before, mind you under the hot desert sun! I get the crane thingy thing that lifts the car thingy thing. Lol. I place it under the car and look for the stick thingy thing that you turn so that the crane thing will lift the car up. As I begin to twist the stick thing, the car begins to lift. Success! Now I look for the thing that takes the screws or lugs or things off the tire. As I search for it, I notice the crack of my ass is beginning to sweat through my khaki pants. Sigh! I get dirt all over my clothes and accept the fact that I’m not getting out of this clean. Cars are zooming by and wait….? Yeap there goes a teacher. He didn’t stop! Shade! I find the lug wrench thing and try to loosen the lugs or whatever they are called but the tire spins every time I try to turn them. It hits me! Ugh! You’re supposed to do this before lifting the car. Clearly the weight of the car would keep the tire from spinning as I loosen the screws, or lugs, or whatever they are called. I lower the car and as its being lowered, I realized my white polo is soaked in sweat. I got sand in my left contact and I’m simply just over all of it!

The car is finally on the ground; I loosen the things and then prepare to lift the car again. Thirty minutes have passed along with two other teachers. Shaaaade! I pull the tire off of the car and in doing so I trip over my flip fop and fall into the dirt. Lol. I retrieve the new tire, feeling somewhat successful and begin to put it in place. Once it’s positioned I debate on whether or not I should lower the car before trying to tighten the screws. I ponder….I sip my water and yeap there goes another car full of teachers! Shhhaaaaaadddeee! I keep the car lifted and begin tightening the screws but then the car wobbles a bit on top of the crane thingy…oh lord…lol. I continue tightening slowly using all my strength to make sure they are secure. I lower the car, say a prayer and hope the wheel will not fall of when I drive away.

As I put the old tire in the trunk, I noticed this huge hole. Clearly a nail had punctured the tire. However, I felt victorious as I attempted to find the lesson in all of this mess. I then realized that you tend to discover your greatest strengths when you are put into an uncomfortable situation and you only have yourself to count on. Even when you think you may need help, give yourself the opportunity to be successful on your own. You are your best cheerleader! Remember that! Woop woop! This is my TRUTH my CLARITY!

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Gratitude = Happiness

imageYou wake up at 5:00am to get ready for work. You take a moment and thank GOD for waking you up.

Then you flood your mind with positive thoughts to ensure a great day (thank you for my sound mind).

As you wipe the crust out of your eyes and yawn out loud, a sudden burst of energy compels you to hop out of bed (thank you for this bed).

You drag your feet to the bathroom in order to take a shower so that your physical body may now catch up to your current state of mind (thank you for my two feet).

You pass by the water heater so thankful that you remembered to turn it on last night. Hot shower here I come! As you run the water, you slip back into your room to play a little music to get the energy flowing (thank you for my iPad).

The nice warm shower is exactly what you needed because now you really feel ready for the day (thank you for this villa).

As you brush your teeth, you tap your feet to the rhythm of the music, you slip in your contacts and take a moment to look in the mirror and sincerely tell yourself, “I love you”. The reflection in the mirror smiles back at you (thank you for my teeth).

You walk out of the bathroom and in your peripheral you see the piece of paper posted on your wall that says, “as you think, so shall you be”. You smile to yourself (thank you for my awareness).

As you make your way down your hallway, you recognize how it has become a gallery of kindoras which are hanging comfortably, and waiting to be shown off. “Ah yes, the blue one today”. You slip it on over your white t-shirt and grey gym shorts. Finished! Yeah, you are dressed lol (thank you for this experience).

You slip back into your bedroom, turn off the music, grab a Guthra (head wrap), and head for the kitchen (thank you for this electricity).

You start thinking about how much you will dread the hour drive, and the moment you become aware of this thought you dismiss it. Instead, as you make a cup of tea, you immediately express gratitude. While waiting for the water to boil you think about how fortunate you are to catch the morning sunrise (breathtaking), how happy and eager your students are to see you, and your ability to even get into the car and drive yourself to work. As the water boils, you suddenly snap out of your brief moment of gratitude. You prepare your cup of tea, take a sip, and the hot water karate chops your top lip! “Damn, it’s so hot!” Lol…(thank you for my senses).

You check the time (5:45am), grab your keys, lunch, tea, work bag and head out the door (thank you for having a job).

You step into the silent hallway, and head towards the elevator. Ding! You step into the elevator and can’t believe an emirate is standing in the elevator wearing the exact same kindora and guthra. You smile, he smiles back. You nod your head, he nods back. You move into the elevator and he steps closer to you. You give him the side eye, and he side eyes you back. You turn your head towards him, and he turns his head towards you. You give him the, “Is there a problem look?” He gives it right back at you. You reach out to push ground floor as he reaches out to push ground floor.

As the elevator makes its way down to the ground floor and the doors open you look back over your shoulder into the mirror and smile at yourself (thank you for my sense of humor).

You part ways with your emirate image and walk outside into the cool, comfortable weather. You lift your arms high above your head expressing your gratitude, for experiencing another morning routine and beautiful day.

You head towards the shiny blue car that waits to take you safely to work (thank you for my car).

You start your car and prepare to have a fantastic day!

As I think….so shall I be!

Consider these thoughts organized! :9)



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